The "M" Word...
The pressure is on...the day has come...where my parents have brought up the "M" word....MARRIAGE!
I had a heated conversation with the parents yesterday (who they brought up the issue...and not me), asking when will they dance in my wedding. Pressure...
They ask: "You're 27 now, when will you find the love of your life?"
Pressure...
They request: "We would like to have little grandchildren running around."
Pressure...
They claim: "What will other people think that our 27 year son is not married yet, or at least engaged"
Pressure...
Mom says (jokingly): "If you're not married by 30, I will become the matchmaker ('7a6aba), and take matters in my own hands...old school!"
Pressure...
So the pressure is on...JOY!
...and with that, I dedicate myself the song "Drop The Pressure" by Mylo. Check it out in my "NOW PLAYING" section on my blog :)
posted by Jazz Central @ 12:51 PM
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27 Comments:
But remember, any girl you meet has to go through the first round of scrutiny from me, A (your boss), and N (corner desk)! Then, with our approval, you can take her home to your parents. :)
As for the pressure, don't let it bother you. It's an Arab thing. I know your parents and I know they're not the type who'd be really bothered by the fact that you're single. In fact, knowing your mom, she might say she wants to marry you off but deep down it's killing her how fast you've grown up! :)
Btw...how's the attitude doing? ;)
Haha, the dreaded moment ;) Yalla, Allah be3een!
*sigh* i guess i dont have to comment since we've discussed this topic already *sigh*
Kleio: LOL...that will be the day when the girls has to go through all you first. Can I be there to witness? or will it a closed session?
Well my parents are not strict about the whole thing. The conversation we had was heated but light-hearted at the same time. They want the best for me, but at the end, they dont want to force the idea down my throat. They just cant seem to wait for the day! :)
Roba: In shaa allah :) Thanks :) A big hello to our fellow bloggers from Jordan :)
Rampurple: *sigh*...I know...we need part two of this discussion. Coffee?
Its quite the opposite at my household, I told them I want to get married .. they tell me to wait. Either way, I know they are not going to bring up the subject for another couple of months now. ;)
Tell them you have found a girl, yet she is from a socially unnaceptable background (be creative). Then they will direct their efforts at you leaving her.
Tell them you move at a different pace than everyone else, the world moves one second at a time, you move 20 seconds after, and based on that, and doing my Greek calculations, you should not be married before the age of 55.
"Drop The Pressure"
إبعد عن الشر وغنيله
Tawinas! :oP
You know that my mom opened the subject with me last year, and you also know that my parents (both mom and dad) told me I have till next year when I become 27 to find someone! Mo inta you have till 30! I actually want kids before 30 or at 30! :oP
Pressure began on me when a close friend got engaged and is soon going to be married.. Grandma approaches me today "Now that your friends are getting married, don't you want to get married.. " and so forth she even stood waiting for a response to if I wanted to get married now! I mean enough already.. I got home and mother approached the same topic. See I am 22 right now and they think that if I approach 27 and remain unmarried I'll remain that way for the rest of my life! URGH!
"allo rampurple? how are u ya benti? we miss u ktir ktir ktir? tell me whats new in ur life? how is work? how is the family? how r ur friends? so whats new? when am going to see u in a white dress?"
to those ppl i tell them life is great and i am in love with.... my life :p and i am wearing a white dress right now... really lovely white dress i must say :P
JC: "when the girlS"?? How many are you planning on bringing to us? LOL! And of course it will be a closed session, so sorry you can't attend! And you didn't respond to my question about the attitude. ;)
Dude .. welcome to the Story of my life, Hi X when are you gonna married, you and your brother grew up so fast we need some grand children running around house.
Me:"Dad it's still too early i just finished university, and i don't have anyone in my life right now"
Dad:"Hmmm your cousin is nice, and she's your cousin."
Me:"Dad no, what do you think i am , i am not gonna marry of my cousin."
Dad:"My cousin is nice, and she is only 1 year older than you."
Me:"Dad please if i am not marrying my cousin, i definitley am not marrying yours, i want to find my own and it is too early right now."
Dad always starts joking about this then he gets pissed off :"Just keep it in mind if you let us choose for you, you get to have everything, but if the one you choose isn't right by us then your on your own"
*SighS* Dude .. i really know what you men.
shopaholic q8eya: It was not my intention to scare, but I know, it is a sensitive issue to discuss with parents :S
KtheKuwaiti: LooOOOL...that was hillarious! Seems to me that u did that...huh? COnfess!
purgatory: LOooL...u did your research. Married at 55? scary thought :S
Nunu: hehehehehe...yal mu6riba :)
stallion: well my parents gave me till 30 since I'm 27 now...thats how it is with me :P
jacqui: No in shaa allah not. You will be married when u think the time is right and the right person comes along :)
rampurple: hehehehe....good way to get them off your case :)
kleio: hehehe...the attitude? I still dont know why u say I developed an attitude...I know I have changed (which is good thing is some cases), but I dont think I have an attitude. I get an attitude when I get pissed, stressed, frustrated which is not often, but its not my new way of life on a daliy basis :)
zinzinq8: LOL...I'm gonna read it :)
fractal: Dude, I know what u mean as well...I was also recommended my cousins from both side of the family. I can't seem to do it as well...I know alot of people who are married to their cousins and are happily married, but I dont think I can do the same.
Finding the love of your life is, well, not planned! I think the more you seek it, the more unnatural and ungenuine it will be.
And if they want grandchildren running around just grab a couple of someone else's kids and rent them out for an hour or two. Make sure to give them a dose of sugary cookies so they can tear your house up; your parents can get a glimpse of jazzy jazzed up kiddies :P
Good luck JC :)
Hmm? Good luck? Well, most importantly, just be your sweet self...
lo0o0l i guess u better start looking ;p
you could do that bachelor movie thing and blow your picture up and put it on a billboard...
yalah create action in kuwait ;p
anything to put our mind off this heat!
HAHAHA! wat's new! All parents are like this. It's a '7ALEEJI disease. They do it to my 29 year old brother all the time. Now they think he's GAY! L.O.L. On top of all this, mom complains that her friends are up her ass about why her kids ain married. We have to suffer hearing all this shit.
I mean wat else can they talk about...Global warming? ;)
I go through this 3ala 6ool, at home they finally dropped the subject, especially after acoupla weirdos proposed fa convential (M) is out till further notice! Love (M)'s also difficult to find and maintain o with all the things that happen around us.. hmm, sa3ba shwaya!
Being a female is terrifying! Imagine what we go through every time we, at least go to parties! My mom would go like: “YALLA YALLA! Go dance & mingle - PLSPLSPLSLS, I will give you 10 KD bas go dance”! Hehehe!
No, there is definitely something new there, but I still love you so it's OK. I'll be home in a few more weeks anyway and we'll clear it out of you nice and good. ;) Going to kidnap you to chalet, just me, you, P, S, A, and N (i.e. the work gang + P) and keep you there until we get you back! Tee hee. :)
I remember a day when i went to my mom's room telling her that I wanna get married to the person I love (whom she knew about), she looked at me in shock & then told me to shut up (istehi 3ala waihich), 1 month later i was happily married
Alia, Aaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwww!!
Jazzy, So when's the wedding?!
Hi..
Off topic: I can see I'm included to your blogroll.. You could now correct my blogspot by changing it with the new one.
Just click one my nickname! =)
erzulie: LOL...Your commment cracked me up. "Jazzy jazzed up kids" :) But thanks for the kind words :) You so sweet yourself.
baroque: Ulla!!...a billboard ad of myself? Thats too much! Actually...no...I kinda like it :)
sexygoba: Yeah true...when I posted this post...i can't tell you the amount of people who mentioned that they always go through it as well. It's a big thing apparently in Kuwait (and in Arab World generally).
chikapappi: I'm sure its also the same for females, I heard stories about the mother's pressure on their daughters in weddings and parties. Yalla..allah yiwafgich. In shaa allah when you feel you're ready, the next guy who proposes will not be a weirdo :)
unfold the voice: It is a wake up call...but I still consider it pressure because if my parents did not talk to me about the issue, I would have dealed with marriage in my own terms. But now, it seems I have to speed up the process because my parents are concerned.
kleio: Yay...kidnapped to chalet...can't wait. I will tell u everything so u can understand what's going on :)
alia: That's so sweet :) Allah yihaneekum in shaa allah :)
Nunu: I hear wedding bells in the distance, but not very soon though. And I fixed your link in my blogroll :)
Hun you know 95% of the time I'm just teasing you. :) But hey, any excuse to get kidnapped to chalet, eh? Hehehe. Can't wait!!
You told me to read this earlier, but I just did…I'd really like to see you with someone so I'd make sure you don't have me in your mind!!! :P
My recommendation is to find one soon, get married soon enough, bring children immediately and I'll tell you why! Your parents are not dreading you will never get married, grandchildren is the keyword...the later you marry the older they get, the older they get the harder handling children would be, the harder handling children would be for them, the more they will be embarrassed to turn you down for your kids to sleepover or spend a day when you're going out or can't find a nanny while going to work (I cannot imagine you marrying someone who doesn't work)…so there you go!
- Find someone (pressure?...oh grow up :P )
- Don’t fall in love until we give you the green light
- Don’t put very high standards, cause then she’d do the same, which will lower your chances with anyone good to 30% :P
- I imagine you with a mix…you’d share that complex
- FIND ONE! This is significantly different from the first point made – I MAY BE able to explain after I wake up!
Anyway...enough meanness for today I reached my daily 100%, good night!!
…ok ok, that was not only mean, it was cold too sooooo I just wanted to add that I'll still love you even if you find a witch to love and be with, and you'll stay in my heart even when she takes you away to the deepest caves in the darkest forest and hopefully the love (I and all your friends have for you) will be the light to find your way back to the people who really care for you…then we’d embrace you with joy and let you know that “we told you so!” and “you never listen!!”
I completely sympathise with your problem since I m 26 now and suffer from the same misfortune. However, you must confront these pressures with the logical reasoning that marriage has become a redundant and archaic arrangement especially when you can now get cheap sex in bahrain for only 40dinars.
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