One Question...
Hi...I'm back again from the dead and I only have one basic question...
Why is considered a crime for a Kuwaiti woman to marry a non-Kuwaiti???
It doesn't make sense why it's a considered the crime of the century for a Kuwaiti woman to marry a non-Kuwaiti. They already get stripped away from their rights from the government in terms on the interest-free loan and housing. So the last thing they need is negative attitude and snickering from people who disagree! I had a conversation today which ended up into a heated debate regarding this issue! It was gonna turn into an arguement, but i did not not want to get deeper into it. I was gonna punch the person! For those people who know me, you know why I'm posing such a question. SO please let me know your thoughts (good and bad)!
posted by Jazz Central @ 1:24 AM
18 comments
18 Comments:
left, right, left, duck.
First of all, I want to know who the person you argued with was!
Secondly, I am with you when it comes to this issue! I say that those Kuwaiti women who marry non-Kuwaiti men should still be treated as Kuwaitis! In my point of view nothing should be stripped away from a Kuwaiti lady because she married someone she loved who just happened to be a foreigner!
I also think it takes GUTS for those women to marry a non-Kuwaiti knowing what will happen! You go ladies, don't let people hold you down!
Cousin i'm with you, now let me say this:
I'm a PROUD Kuwaiti woman who's happily married (almost 4 yrs) to a wonderful, kind, handsome, loving (have to stop or i'll never finish) American Muslim man from Hungarian/Russian heritage, and trust me i had my share of ignorant people telling me how it's so "not a Kuwaiti thing to do"
Persoanly i don't give a damn what they say, religion wise i didn't do anything wrong and my parents love us both, and if both God and my parents are happy that makes me in the okay list :) so who cares what stupid people say..hehehe
Stallion oh i have guts and plenty of it ;) my goal is to piss off ignorant pple.. LOL
Jazz don't let them get in to you, they're pathetic :)
They call that a crime of the century?!!
BULLS**T!!!
I'm totally not against a Kuwaiti woman marrying a non-Kuwaiti.
1 2 3 4 5 6 7
1 is married to a spanish guy
2 is married to austrian guy
3 is married to swedish guy
4 is married to american dude
5 is married to jordanian guy
6 is married to french fella
7 is married to australian model
and those are my friends :)
so it depends on the family.
and three from the above regretting marring a forigner after their kids reached 15 and above years.
out of subject : naby jass festival bil kuwait , ma taby?
Cos it's a man's world. Till further notice.
First time here (I think)
Nice meeting you :)
one thing, stupid traditions, bs
o no.. and stupid parants
Purg: LOL...what do u mean?
Stallion: I had the talk with a friend who you dont know. and I totally agree that it does take guts for them to get married to a non-Kuwaiti even she knows whats gonna happen in the future.
Reema: Thats great you went with what you thought was right. Good for you. Damn...you must pissed off a lot of people.
Nunu: I said "crime of the century" because thats what they told me. I dont think its even a crime in the first place. Weird isn't it?
Edjamacated Guy: I see where you going in terms of people's roots. Example: A Kuwaiti woman marrying a Lebanese. They both Arab..so it should not be a problem in terms of heritage. I know alot of people who marry another GCC citizen, and yet no problems. I can see that it may be a challenge for an arab woman to marry a westerner, but still they can get beyond that and live a happy life.
Judy Abbott: Yeah, there is a growing number of Kuwaiti women who marry non-Kuwaiti. And true that problems occur when it comes to their kids living in Kuwait, since they have to live with an eqama. And yes I do want a Jazz festival :) Are u organizing one?
Shorouq: You think? Welcome to my humble domain :)
Blasha: HI :) la bil 3aks..i don't blame tradition. I blame the closed-minded attitude towards the situation. Its always good to have traditions, but need be open-minded about other people.
Ok, I have to explain myself since some people (not who just commented) are getting the wrong impression. Don't get me wrong...I'm not saying its bad for a Kuwaiti woman to marry a Kuwaiti guy. Bil 3aks..i'm all for people marrying within their same national origin. More power to them. A lot of Kuwaiti men I know marry non-Kuwaiti women and it seems to be more accepted. She will get the Kuwaiti citenship through the marriage, so no problem there..right? But a Kuwaiti woman (jinsiya oula) who marries a non-Kuwaiti will have to go through hell, especially when it comes to their kids. I know a Kuwaiti mother who's son was deported because his iqama was expired and did not renew in time. Now is that fair? She told me alot people told her..."I told you so..."
That is what you do when you want to punch someone
Jazz: Well if you're talking about jenseya and eqama personally for me i don't care much about it, i guess having dual citizenship has it's benefits in some ways. It all depends if the family choose to live in Kuwait or not, but i understand what some Kuwaiti women go through and true it's not fair.
Just wanted to make something clear, when it comes to tradition it doesn't matter nor conflicts with marrying a Muslim Westerner regardless of his heritage because there can only be 1 tradition which is Islam, and the children would be raised in such an environment.
Kuwaiti women have married non-Kuwaiti men for years now. It may not be as common as men marrying non-Kuwaitis but it does happen.
The issue is not whether it is right or wrong but the couple must take into consideration their children, especially as they grown older. From a young age a distinction should be made concerning the child's identity and citizenship so that he/she doesn't grow up thinking that he/she is Kuwaiti and then suffer all the emotional turmoil when realizing that they are different than their Kuwaiti cousins and friends.
Until laws and regulations are changed to allow Kuwaiti women more privileges, they should think carefully and with their heads rather than their hearts.
I know! Isn't that the most pathetic thing!? I mean howcome when a Kuwaiti man marries a non-Kuwaiti women, everythings okay, and she gets to apply for citizenship, while a non-Kuwaiti man can't even though he's married to a Kuwaiti women.
I think people should start looking beyond the marriage itself. I mean, in the end her kids are nto gonna get the support the other Kuwaiti kids do, such as education, free health care etc.
So, in a way, they're encouraging her to live someplace else. I mean, she is a kuwaiti CITIZEN, and her kids are half Kuwaiti, why not care about them too!?
I'm totally for marrying who you love, and who you'd feel comfortable and happy living your life with, and not what THIS society accepts for you to marry. Cause in the end, and no offense, Most Kuwaitis tend to dig their noses into everyones lives. If they spent more time minding their own business, we'd all be fine. And, no matter WHAT happens, in the end, most people here have something negative to say!
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Purg: Ok I get it now...i'm punching away :)
Reema: Thats good you have a dual citizenship. It sure benefits you. It also does affect the kids who's family decides to live in Kuwait. They feel the difference once they reach 15 years old.
Jewaira: Some parents neglect telling their kids where they really come from, and leave it up to society to show them, which is totally wrong. This is when the kids have an identity problem growing up. Also, if they want to get married, they should think with their hearts even knowing the challenges they will go through...through thick and thin...now thats a marriage!
Edjamacated Guy: I see what you mean, but that should not make a difference. I know a loooooooot of people who marry outside their lineage.
Tequila69: I dont think its a crime too. I personally believe thats its amazing to marry who you beleive is right and love...regardless from their roots.
Dishevelled: I like what you have to say. very true. You made a lot of sense, especially mentioning that her kids are half-Kuwaiti.
Fadibou: Great meeting you too. I agree that your situation does apply to nationalities as well. I also believe thats its a great advantage that I too have a birdseye view of both side. I see it as having the best of both worlds :)
Hello everyone.
I am an American man that converted to Islam in Jan. 2006 I meet a Kuwaiti woman in march 2006 in which I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I Love this woman with all my heart , we are living in the US now. I agree if a person is good at heart and is a Muslim why not let them marry. If someone has some questions or some answers email me My wife is looking for people from Kuwait to become friends with here in the US since she really has No friends here at all. We have been married for 10 months and it is the most wonderful thing to ever happen to me. I love her so much!!!!! So for people that think it is not right then WHY?????
I want to know what all did my wife loose for marring ME??????????
assalamu alaikum,
i married a kuwaiti man almost 2 months ago and im an american muslim woman who fully covers and accepts all their cultural differences but sadly to say his family is pressuring him to divorce me because im 'non asl', i cant really explain how much this hurts really, its pretty sad, we were so madly in love before marriage and after and for the longest what they said never bothered him until just a week ago and now hes talking about how he dont think he can complete this life with me anymore, im really feeling so sad about this and cant understand how he can change so quickly. its like we were living in fanatsy world how in love we were and how happy we were together, and now all of a sudden a sudden change in him and its so strong, he treats me so much differently now.now hes saying he just doesnt feel comfortable with me anymore, but just a week ago he was saying how he didnt think there was anyone in this world better than me and how he never anted me out of his life and so on, i really dont know how to handle it its crazy
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